If you ask me who I am, I will tell you that I am Tiffany, my parents’ daughter, native of Albany, GA. If you ask me what kind of person I am, I will tell you that I’m fun-loving, sometimes silly, passionate, ambitious, loyal, and a lot of other things. If you ask me what I would consider to be a huge compliment from someone who knows me, it would be that they consider me to be a good person who treats everyone with kindness and respect. When trying to figure out how a person defines themselves, these are the type of questions that you ask. From my answers, I hope you can see that I define myself by the way that I act, the way that I treat people, and the people and experiences that have contributed to the woman that I have become. In short, I define myself by my character, and because that’s how I define myself, it’s also how I define other people.
There are people in this world who define themselves by the amount of money they have, the things that they own, or the level of success that they have achieved. There are several problems with this line of thinking. The first problem is that defining yourself by exterior things is that those things can be taken away, so if you lose your money, your job, or your materials, you lose who you are. The second problem is that it lets you off the hook for being responsible for your actions. If all it takes to make you a good person is for you to obtain success and money, then it doesn’t matter how you acted along the way. That’s the wrong line of thinking. The final (and biggest) problem that I have with the idea of defining one’s self by exterior factors is that you will define others the same way. That means that you will think less of those who have less. It also means that you will think less of yourself when comparing yourself to someone who has more. That ain’t cool.
Define yourself by things like the way that you treat people and how you act in the face of adversity. That’s much more important than how much money you have. It is a personal goal of mine to have a positive effect on every person that I encounter. I think that the way to do this is to try to be a positive person who defines myself by positive character traits. Being kind, humble, and caring will have a heavier impact on the world than wearing the most popular brands. I want people to see the good in me, and I want to see the good in people…not the good on them. That’s why I define myself by my character. I hope you will, too.
When giving people advice on finding love, gaining confidence, or just enjoying life, one of the most popular pieces of advice offered is that you have to love and be happy with yourself. Loving yourself is comprised of having a positive self-image and accepting the things about yourself that you can’t change. When you love yourself it doesn’t necessarily mean that you think you are perfect and therefore don’t need to strive to become better. It just means that you are aware of your value and you know that you have things to offer. It means that though you may strive to change some things about yourself in an effort to make improvements, you still accept and appreciate who you are inside and out.
Why is it so important to love yourself? It’s important because your view of yourself has an enormous impact on your view of the world. When you don’t see yourself properly, when you don’t see the beauty in yourself and all of the gifts that you have to offer, you often won’t be able to see the beauty in the world around you. When you don’t have a clear view of the world, it can lead you to make bad decisions – decisions that aren’t fully based in reality because they are skewed by your somewhat unrealistic/negative view of the world.
Lil Kim is a prime example of what having a negative self-image can do to a person. She didn’t think that she was beautiful, so she tried to change the way she looked. She has gone through several transformations, so it seems that no matter how much she changes her physical appearance, she fails to achieve the look that she wants. Lil Kim went from being a beautiful young woman to a caricature that people laugh at all because her decisions were skewed by a negative self-image. She played herself, and will continue to do so until she learns to love herself.
The whole idea of loving yourself in order to find happiness may seem somewhat idealistic to some, but it really is a necessity. A lot of people make the mistake of searching for someone or something outside of themselves to make them happy, but that happiness is fleeting because it is only there for as long as that exterior factor is around. When you love and are happy with yourself, your happiness isn’t dependent upon outside factors. That means that you can be happy no matter what your situation may be. When you don’t have that, you often end up settling for less than you deserve, making poor relationship decisions, or even worse, harming yourself physically. All of those things fall into the same category as Lil Kim and all her plastic surgery – playing yourself. Don’t play yourself. Love yourself.
We told you we were going to kick off fresh events in 2013! Well, you don’t have to wait any longer!
C.O.R.E Mag & Creative Dreamers would like to invite you to our Art of War Art Battle in NYC!
‘Art of War’ Art Battle is a fundraiser that raises money for C.O.R.E Magazine and Creative Dreamer organizations. The event exhibits different genres of art in a social networking environment. This year we have 4 fine artists and 2 musical artists that will showcase their talents on Thursday, May 2nd at Dragones Rooftop Lounge atIndigo Hotel in Chelsea (127 W. 28th St. NY, NY 10001 between 6th and 7th)
Featured Artists: Eunah Han
DERTI
Daniel Hibbert
Kamila Maslowska
Musical Guests:
G. Martin
Ja’ Shayla
When: Thursday, May 2nd
Where: Dragones Rooftop Lounge at Indigo Hotel in Chelsea (127 W. 28th St. NY, NY 10001 between 6th and 7th)
There’s an old saying that goes: “You can’t turn a ho into a housewife.” Today, we’re going to explore why that’s largely a true statement, and see what characteristics determine to which category people belong. As a disclaimer, let me say that I know that you all are young and being a wife isn’t at the top of your to-do list right now, but, I also don’t think any of you are jumping at the chance to be considered a ho. Now, let’s get started.
What makes a ho a ho?
Contrary to popular belief, a girl/woman isn’t considered a ho simply because she’s messed around with a lot of guys. That’s a contributing factor, but it’s definitely not the only factor. Some of you may even know someone who people consider promiscuous who isn’t even messing around like that. So, how is it that someone who doesn’t really mess with a lot of guys be considered a ho? It’s because she carries herself like one.
How do hos carry themselves?
Oh honey, you already know the answer to this question. All you need to do is log onto Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or YouTube and you will see examples EVERYWHERE. How many status updates have you seen that are just trifling? How many twerk videos have been posted for the world to see? It’s not just on the internet, though. You can walk down the street and see the tale-tell signs. What’s your first thought when you see the girl in skimpy clothing that shows more than it covers? What about the one who is ALWAYS finding her way to a group of guys just to have a less-than-respectable conversation with ALL of them. ALL was a key word in that last sentence because it’s going to take us to our next category. What makes any girl think that flirting (or doing more) with an entire group of guys is okay? It’s because she has a ho mentality.
What is a ho mentality?
It’s the way of thinking that leads women to do the things that I described above. They don’t think like a woman with class. Therefore, they don’t act like a woman with class. Even worse, they may actually think like a woman with class but choose to act otherwise just to get male attention. Either way, through their actions, they are telling the world to treat them a certain way, and please believe me when I tell you that the boys/men in their lives are treating them accordingly. To be honest, I don’t know the ins and outs of their mentality, but I do know the major flaw in it. That type of mentality is one that tells them that when it comes to getting a man that they should lead with their bodies.
What makes a housewife a housewife?
In more general terms, what are the characteristics of a girl whom a guy will consider dating seriously/making a commitment to? This song does a pretty good job of describing that type of girl:
Okay, let’s go through some of those lyrics to see what type of woman dead prez described.
I don’t want nobody who can’t get up on my level/who can’t overstand my rebel soul…. I think she want me/school me/jewel me/feed me wisdom/drop it on me – This says to me that this man doesn’t want to be with someone who can’t keep up with him intellectually. It also sounds like he’s interested in someone who can listen well enough to get to know him and understand and accept who he is. I think that makes sense. As women, we all want to feel like we have someone that we can talk to and who understands us. Why would we expect it to be any different for men? In addition to being able to keep up with him intellectually, he described a woman who can introduce him to new things.
Got no time for dumbing down/her brilliance keep coming out…. She ain’t ashamed of her nerd side/Her body and her mind fine – The woman that’s described here is not only intelligent, but she’s also comfortable with that intelligence. She doesn’t try to dumb herself down or act ditzy in an effort to attract a guy or make those around her feel more comfortable. She is also beautiful mentally and physically.
Look inside her beautiful mind/fly design/watch her shine/fine wine/better with time…. She’s so wise/thick in the thighs/politicized/beautiful eyes/ambitious/so delicious/motivated, oh baby, analytical/critical thinker – They aren’t just talking about her intellectual prowess. They show a man who is appreciating the physical as well as mental beauty of a woman. Guys love to marvel at girls who are beautiful, but when they are in it for more than just the physical, they will marvel at your mental assets, too.
A lot of these beautiful girls be freaks but weak in the mind/ Hers is strong. – Now, this is a big one. This speaks to your boundaries. How far are you willing to go to get the guy you want? Are you willing to compromise your morals and values just because he asks you to and you don’t want to say no? There are girls out here playing themselves because they think giving in to someone’s every desire makes them desirable. It may make them desirable, but not for the right reasons. Most of those girls are viewed as temporary solutions and are not a permanent fixture in a guy’s life. These few lines are describing someone who values herself and holds fast to her boundaries. Having boundaries and not crossing them for anyone will earn you respect. Being respected is much more valuable than just being lusted after.
Why can’t you turn a ho into a housewife?
She doesn’t have the right mentality. She acts like the best of what she has to offer is what’s under her clothes. She’s not thinking like a woman who knows that her best asset is her mind. One of the characteristics of a good wife is the ability to help a man build a life. When working as a team to build anything, you have to bring intellect, wisdom, cooperation, and respect to the table. To be considered for a wife position, you have to lead with those things. A woman has to have a certain type of mentality to make that possible, and a ho mentality just doesn’t fit the bill. Therefore, even long before a guy is ready to settle down and get married, you will find that he still categorizes the women he interacts with. He’s not going to try to have anything significant with a girl that he sees as a ho because he knows that she’s not thinking like someone that he can have a real future with, and she probably doesn’t carry herself like someone that he will be proud to have on his arm. Hos are usually dealt with in the dark. Strive to be the type of woman who walks in the light.
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We told you we were going to kick off fresh events in 2013! Well, you don’t have to wait any longer!
C.O.R.E Mag & Creative Dreamers would like to invite you to our Art of War Art Battle in NYC!
‘Art of War’ Art Battle is a fundraiser that raises money for C.O.R.E Magazine and Creative Dreamer organizations. The event exhibits different genres of art in a social networking environment. This year we have 4 fine artists and 2 musical artists that will showcase their talents on Thursday, May 2nd at Dragones Rooftop Lounge atIndigo Hotel in Chelsea (127 W. 28th St. NY, NY 10001 between 6th and 7th)
Featured Artists: Eunah Han
DERTI
Daniel Hibbert
Kamila Maslowska
Musical Guests:
G. Martin
Ja’ Shayla
When: Thursday, May 2nd
Where: Dragones Rooftop Lounge at Indigo Hotel in Chelsea (127 W. 28th St. NY, NY 10001 between 6th and 7th)
that have contributed to the woman that I have become. In short, I define myself by my character, and because that’s how I define myself, it’s also how I define other people.
