Q: “My boyfriend and I have been official for about 3 months now. When it’s just us two by ourselves or out on a date he is the greatest boyfriend ever. He pays attention to me and is super sweet! The problem is when we get to school and he gets around his boys, he acts like I don’t even exist! He barely even notices me. But as soon as we are alone he can’t stay out of my face. I really really like him but I don’t know what to do. So my question is how come guys don’t claim their girlfriend when they’re around their friends? Why do guys act like their girlfriend doesn’t exist out in public?? What should I do?”
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A: There are four important things you need to know to help you figure out what you should do:
- GUYS ARE WEIRD…we do pretty weird stuff for even weirder reasons…no explanation, just a fact of life
- DON’T SETTLE!…only deal with what you can handle
- COMMUNICATION…you have to let us know how you feel, we aren’t good guessers
- GIRLS RUN THE WORLD…as a guy, I hate to admit it, but you do. The problem is, most don’t even realize they’re in control
Now that you know these things, let’s break down your situation…
Girls typically mature faster than the average guy so chances are you’re going to be mentally ready for things that will take him a while to catch up on. As a result, there could be a number of reasons why ‘you don’t exist’ when he’s around his friends. You might think GUYS ARE WEIRD because most don’t want to be seen as soft or lovey-dovey in front of the homies. We are way to tough to hold your hand around the boys and we are way to cool (most times) to be seen out and about with our girlfriends. Just remember this is natural; we just haven’t arrived at your level of maturity…yet.
Now that you know one of the many reasons why we act so funny, you should also be mindful of the next important point: if you don’t like what we do, can’t stand how we act, don’t accept it…DON’T SETTLE! In most cases, a guy worth keeping is going to respect you for laying down the law from time to time…don’t be to demanding or to mean, but we’d like to think there’s a challenge from day to day; we want things easy, but we don’t tend to like conflict or nagging much either. A good challenge is what makes life worth living for us.
For the rest of your life the importance of COMMUNICATION is going to be evident, especially when it comes to relationships. It doesn’t matter if you’re 14, 34 or 80 years old…you can’t have a good relationship with out talking out your issues. If you haven’t already, just ask him (politely of course) why he acts the way he does.
This is where GIRLS RUN THE WORLD comes into play. Since you run the world, you already know that he’s not as mature as you (don’t remind him though, he knows all too well already) an argument won’t get you anywhere. Just let him know you don’t like being treated that way…if he can’t accept it and work on improving it, he’s not worth your time. You are powerful because the only time we ever get away with anything is when you let us. Don’t allow us to run you over. You’re always in control, at least until you give us control. Since you have all this power, be gracious…kill us with kindness while putting your foot down when necessary…your reputation will thank you later.
Lastly, if all else fails (which it won’t), remember this: he’s not being fake towards you but rather towards his friends. The real him is the super sweet guy that pays you attention and not the one who acts like you barely exists when his boys are close by.