Posts tagged "Teen life"

Squad: Do Not Disturb

Making moves with the squad always calls for fun! But have you ever been craving alone time when your friends are begging you to come hang? Well, here are 4 ways to successfully have alone time when you need it. Also remember, time to yourself has a positive impact on your mental health and should be nothing to feel guilty about.

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Set Alone Time| Set aside a specific time of the day that you want to be meant for you and only you. By the way, this time shouldn’t consist of bedtime hours. It should be a time of day that you can have to yourself consistently so that your peers will understand and respect that as your time

Set an alone place| Find a place where you can go and embrace yourself. This place can be near or far but just make sure it is easily accessible.

Start a hobby| It sounds cliché, but hobbies are perfect opportunities to focus on something other than what’s going on in your busy life. It may take time to figure out what the perfect hobby is for you, but when you do, you’ll learn so much about yourself.

Put your phone on do not disturb| The ‘Do Not Disturb’ feature on your phone is a blessing. You can turn it on during your alone time to make sure you’re not distracted when the squad is calling you. Just don’t forget to turn it off when alone time is over.

~Tia Banks, Content Editor

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Tired AF? Push Through This Semester!

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The end of the semester is near and even though everything seems like it’s happening at once, just take a chill pill. You’ll be okay! Papers, projects, and finals are right around the corner and it’s nothing you can’t handle. We are here to help you manage these next few weeks so you can walk away from this semester with a peace of mind.

Sashay Your Way To Class. This rule may seem so simple but is very important especially during the last few weeks of the semester. Professors will be teaching last minute PowerPoint’s and going over info from earlier in the semester. This is your last chance to ask questions so make sure you’re present.

Break Don’t Quit. In between studying, classes, and trying to stay focused, make sure you take a break. Go hangout with friends, grab a quick bite to eat off campus, or have a short workout session in the gym. Anything is a break as long as you’re focused on something else.

Prioritize your priorities. You have a million and one things to do but some things are more important than others. There are assignments that you may have procrastinated on for a while that you need to start before you begin that take home test. Just make sure you put everything in order of importance so that you’ll have a grasp on all of your assignments.

-Tia Banks, Content Editor

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Holiday #ClapBack Season!

The holidays are right around the corner, which means along with delicious home cooked meals will come lots of inquisitive relatives wanting to know all about your personal life. There are very little ways to avoid it but we are here to help you survive it. Relatives know how to push your buttons but with these tips, your holiday season can be somewhat peaceful and your business can remain private.

Give Only A Little. When the family asks about what’s going on in your life, they’re going to expect a long summation of what you’ve been up to since the last holiday season. Throw them off with simple and vague answers.

Stay Away. Your aunties and uncles usually ask the hard-hitting questions around the dinner table. Therefore, once you’ve made your plate of food make a run for it to another part of the house or take a seat at the kid’s table. They’ll be sure to keep you entertained.

Be Petty.  The last resort is a bold one. If you’re feeling exceptionally petty, you can hit your relative back with a #thanksgivingclapback. We warn you to only try this with your cool aunt, your older cousin, or anyone that knows how to take a joke.

 

Tia B., Content Editor

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Clutch It! 3 Money-Wasters!

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College brings on many new responsibilities and being fiscally responsible is one of the hardest. It seems like money leaves your wallet faster than it goes in and your bank account is starting to collect spider webs. Believe it or not, there are plenty of ways you’re wasting your money in college. Check out some of these things to cut back on so you can stack those coins!

Junk Food Foodie?– Although it is nice to treat yourself to fast food every once in a while, the campus is full of eating spots that are included in your meal plan. This is so much better than having to spend money on take out every time you’re hungry. The other benefit is that campus usually offers healthier options so it’s a win-win.

Rent’em + Return’em- Buying textbooks is a hard financial hit in the beginning of the semester. In order to cut costs, rent your books from websites like Amazon and Chegg. You should also ask your professor to see if you’ll even need the book before you buy it.

Ride Along– Having a car on campus is obviously convenient, but the money you spend on upkeep isn’t worth it. You’ll have to pay for gas weekly and some colleges even make you pay for a parking pass every year. Ditch the car and opt for a bike or walk like most students do. Large campuses even provide transportation to your classes.

 

~Tia Banks, Content Editor

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Style Diary x Stella!

Scroll through the STYLE diary of  Vancouver based teen blogger, Stella! 

What’s your name + the city you’re from?
Stella-Jane, Vancouver

Style is showing who you are without having to speak! Name your top 3 trends you’re feeling this season?
I’m honestly so bad at keeping up with trends because I wear whatever I am confident in. If I really had to choose, some trends that I am honestly in love with right now, are the dad sneaker trend, the statement belt trend and the plaid trend that is slowly making its way back. I think these trends could even be worn throughout the year and that makes it even more appealing to me, especially since I know I’m not investing in pieces that would only last me three months.

If you had 30 seconds to grab your 3 favorite style pieces, what would they be?
If I had 30 seconds to grab my favourite style pieces, I would definitely grab my black fur purse, my oversized denim jacket, and my vans old skools shoes.

Style inspo is everything! Who’s your ultimate fashion icon + why?
It is definitely hard for me to pick one specific person as my fashion Icon but two of my favourites currently are Ryan destiny and Alani Figueroa (@wuzg00d on Instagram ). Ryan Destiny’s style is so comfortable but still looks so amazingly thought out and versatile. Alani Figueroa has been my all time street style queen ever since I stumbled upon her Instagram. The way she styles extravagant colours, layers her jewelery and manages her Instagram, makes her the ultimate Fashion Icon for me.

Getting ready in the morning can be fun but stressful if you’re in a time crunch, what’s your go-to look if you’re in a rush?
If I was in a complete time crunch, my go-to outfit is to grab a hoodie and a pair of my favourite track pants but to spice it up I’ll wear my oversized black fur coat to give it a bit of a girly look!

What’s your number 1 rule when it comes to style?
This may come off as cliche but honestly, if you want to look good, no matter what you are wearing as long as you feel comfortable and confident in it, you are going to look amazing. I have seen some girls look so awkward in outfits because they just wanted to “fit in”. Following others takes so much away from your personal style and creativity, plus you aren’t as happy whiles you are wearing it. So, take my advice, be confident in what you were because that is where your style shines through!

Follow more style inspo from Stella!
Blog: xostellajane.com
Instagam: stellajanexo

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Strict Much?

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Don’t you absolutely hate when your parents get on you about little things?! It’s like they’re trying to prevent you from living your best life! You feel like they are breathing down your neck and don’t give you any room to enjoy your youth. Well we’re here to give you some tips on how to deal with overly strict parents.

Keep it 100| Show your parents that you are serious about having more freedom. Sit down with them and discuss the rules that are in place and why you feel like they are unrealistic. Along with that, give them suggestions for appropriate punishments and reward system.

Relax| When your parents come down hard on you, don’t use your energy to yell and argue back. It will make them see you as immature and further their decision to remain as strict as possible.

Help me, help me! | Sometimes you may need to lean on other family members for help. For example, your aunts and uncles are great people to talk to about your parents’ strict ways since they grew up with them.

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Tia Banks, Content Editor

 

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Queen EXTRA? Not Today

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We all have that one friend who does the absolute most! We love them to death but sometimes their personality is EXTRA. You ever find yourself rolling your eyes whenever they’re around? Yeah, it’s time to check this diva.

Remain Unbothered -When your friend is having a diva moment don’t exhaust your energy by feeding into it. They’re probably telling you a story with lots of embellishments in order to get more attention.

No More Drama -We love hanging out a spilling tea with friends. However, we are going to have to cut this friend off from tea spillage. Drama only adds to our diva friend’s over the top personality. This is a fire you don’t want to add fuel to.

Keep Calm and Carry On –Everyone has their issues where they need a friend to vent to. When your diva friend contacts you for support, make sure you remain calm. No need to add in any “Oh no she didn’t” and “Girl! Are you serious?!”. Just give her the advice she’s looking for.

Small Doses- You may need to cut back on some of the time you spend with her all together. It’s easier to handle personalities like that in small doses. You care for her the same, but you do so from a distance.

-Tia Banks, Content Editor

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InstaCRUSH or InstaSTALK?

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You know how easy it is to turn into an FBI agent when you’re trying to gather info on your crush. You end up on their sister’s husband’s bestfriend’s cousin’s mother’s page. Well depending on how much information you gather and how often you search, you’re borderline cyberstalking.

Here are 3 ways to know if you have crossed the line:

Catfish– Like many perpetrators on the show, you yourself have developed a fake profile. This is so you can hide behind another identity in order to get more info on your crush without seeming crazy.

Excessive Messaging– Opposite of catfishing, you are not hiding behind a fake identity but you are sending lots of DMs. Even when he doesn’t answer, you continue to send messages in hopes of getting the response you wanted.

You search and search…and search– Not only do you search their Instagram page, but you also look for their Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, Google+, Youtube, and probably their Myspace too.

-Content Editor, Tia Banks

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Body Talk!

From social media influencers to getting an inside peek of celeb lifestyles, it’s easy to start playing the comparison game.  Being a teen oftentimes invites social pressures that can have you feeling out of place, isolated + constantly battling with body image. It can be difficult not to compare yourself to others when perfection is portrayed every time you scroll on Instagram. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness, one in five teens ages 13-18, have or will have, a serious mental illness.

Knowledge is power + it’s important to learn more about yourself and how you perceive your body. We spoke with Jamie Manwaring, PhD, Primary Therapist from the Eating Recovery Center in Denver to give us additional insight on the impact of eating disorders and self-esteem.

Come join us for body talk!

With social media being so prevalent throughout teenage years, how has that affected the rate of eating disorders + depression of teens?

Many studies have recently shown strong correlations among the amount of social media used by teenagers, and their resulting body image dissatisfaction, internalization of the thin ideal, and symptoms of depression. We do not yet know if this has impacted the prevalence of eating or depressive disorders in teenagers, but social media can certainly provide unhelpful messages and triggers to teenagers at risk for these disorders, including a greater ability to compare to peers.

An eating disorder can lead to suicide or suicidal thoughts, how does struggling with body image create a sense of hopelessness?

We don’t know the exact mechanisms by which poor body image can lead to hopelessness, but we do know that body dissatisfaction predicts depression for girls, but not for boys (Bearman & Stice, 2008), although the relationship between poor body image and low self-esteem is similar for both genders (Davison & McCabe, 2006). For those who are unhappy with their bodies, this can create hopelessness due to being in your body all the time, and thus struggling to separate themselves from this component of their unhappiness.

Davison TE, McCabe MP.J Soc Psychol. 2006 Feb; 146(1):15-30. Adolescent body image and psychosocial functioning.
Bearman SK, Stice E. J Abnorm Child Psychol. 2008 Nov; 36(8):1251-63. Testing a gender additive model: the role of body image in adolescent depression.

 

Being a teen and discovering your personality can be an intense emotional roller coaster, how can friends + family detect between teen moods and a potential mental illness?

It is normal and natural that teenagers want to gain their independence and often react harshly to their parents to achieve this outcome. This, in addition to their hormonal changes, can make it difficult to distinguish what is normal versus what deserves intervention. Given that teenagers typically want to spend time with friends and engage in extracurricular activities outside of the home, a change in this desire for a teenager may signal something more is going on for them than just a bad day. In general, look for the severity of their symptoms, the duration of their symptoms (a deterioration in mood that lasts two weeks or longer may indicate depression versus a bad mood), and how many domains their symptoms impact (e.g., at home, in school, and with friends). Finally, parents should always trust their intuition and talk to their teenager’s medical providers and teachers to obtain a better understanding of how the teenager is functioning.

Struggling with an eating disorder? Never be ashamed to reach out for help within a supportive community. Learn more here:

Eating Recovery Center

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Professor Shade?

Your parents may think you’re overreacting, but what do they know? There’s a possibility that your teacher is out to make your semester miserable. Ugh! We can’t pinpoint why but we can help you through it with these 3 survival tips:

Ask Around – Be observant of your teacher’s behavior and ask a classmate if they feel the same way. If they do, then you won’t be going through this semester alone!

Focus- Even when your teacher is in full savage mode, remain focused. Now is not the time to become the class clown to lighten the mood. Save it for your lunch period.

Talk to Them-This is the route for the bold and mature crowd. Speaking directly to a teacher in a respectful manner is a way to face the problem head on. Just remember this is not your peer so you mustn’t speak to them like one.

-Tia Banks, Content Editor

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