Today it seems as if we all know atleast one of our loved ones who have experienced breast cancer. From mother to aunt to sister to cousin, it’s becoming more prevalent in our community. Even though you might not be the one actually going through the cancer does not mean it’s not difficult for you to handle it as well. Sometimes being the support system can make you feel helpless. But even though you might think these are small things they will help your loved one cope and speak volumes.
Listening Ear- Yes, as simple as this sounds giving a listening ear is sometimes the best gift you can give. Going through any type of cancer of sickness takes you through a whirlwind of emotions. Frustration, anger, sadness, loneliness are feelings that can seep out. A lot of times they just want to vent their feelings in a judgement free environment. So it’s your job just to listen and allow their feelings to pour out. Just by them allowing themselves to let go for a moment empowers them to keep going.
Space- As much as you want to help them sometimes it is best to give them just a little breathing room. Being around doctors and family all the time sometimes they just want me-time where they can meditate, get centered or just calmly have some quiet time for themselves.
Let’s Talk- The times they want to talk…go ahead and chat it up! It’s ok to ask about their progress or their treatments. They want you to understand go through the process with them and not be scared. Try to get comfortable talking about their condition, they do not want to feel like an outcast or it’s a hidden burden. Be honest about your feelings through the process to them as well. It’s all about being able to release your emotions properly as well!
Small Treats- Remember that going through chemotherapy or surgery their bodies are constantly changing. That does not mean they are untouchable. Do small things such as give them a feet rub or a hand rub to promote circulation. Doing small treats such as these will keep them in high spirits and make the feel great!
Journal- Now this may be for you more so than them but being able to write down how you genuinely feel in a journal will help you cope and be a better support system as well. Also encourage to your loved one to write in a journal as well.