Today it seems as if we all know atleast one of our loved ones who have experienced breast cancer. From mother to aunt to sister to cousin, it’s becoming more prevalent in our community. Even though you might not be the one actually going through the cancer does not mean it’s not difficult for you to handle it as well. Sometimes being the support system can make you feel helpless. But even though you might think these are small things they will help your loved one cope and speak volumes.

Listening Ear- Yes, as simple as this sounds giving a listening ear is sometimes the best gift you can give. Going through any type of cancer of sickness takes you through a whirlwind of emotions. Frustration, anger, sadness, loneliness are feelings that can seep out. A lot of times they just want to vent their feelings in a judgement free environment. So it’s your job just to listen and allow their feelings to pour  out. Just by them allowing themselves to let go for a moment empowers them to keep going.

Space- As much as you want to help them sometimes it is best to give them just a little breathing room. Being around doctors and family all the time sometimes they just want me-time where they can meditate, get centered or just calmly have some quiet time for themselves.

Let’s Talk- The times they want to talk…go ahead and chat it up! It’s ok to ask about their progress or their treatments. They want you to understand go through the process with them and not be scared. Try to get comfortable talking about their condition, they do not want to feel like an outcast or it’s a hidden burden. Be honest about your feelings through the process to them as well. It’s all about being able to release your emotions properly as well!

Small Treats- Remember that going through chemotherapy or surgery their bodies are constantly changing. That does not mean they are untouchable. Do small things such as give them a feet rub or a hand rub to promote circulation. Doing small treats such as these will keep them in high spirits and make the feel great!

Journal- Now this may be for you more so than them but being able to write down how you genuinely feel in a journal will help you cope and be a better support system as well. Also encourage to your loved one to write in a journal as well.

-C.O.R.E Family

So you heard your mom, aunt, granny talk about doing them.You’ve disregarded pamphlets about them you seen at your school, church and any program or organization your parents make you participate in. Your mom even went so far as to stick an example of a plastic diagram in the shower to show you how to do one properly. Yes, I’m talking about giving yourself Breast Self Examination. Yeah, Yeah, Yeah you’ve always heard about it but “you’re young, free and invincible!” Hmmmm but think about if you start doing monthly breast self exams it will help you develop positive habits and allow you to learn your body so if anything were to happen you would pick up on it quickly. It’s not as hard as you think!

Check out steps from National Breast Cancer center….

In the Shower

Fingers flat, move gently over every part of each breast. Use your right hand to examine the left breast, left hand for the right breast. Check for any lump, hard knot, or thickening. Carefully observe any changes in your breasts.

Step 2
Before a Mirror

Inspect your breasts with your arms at your sides. Next, raise your arms high overhead.

Look for any changes in the contour of each breast, a swelling, a dimpling of the skin, or changes in the nipples. Then rest your palms on your hips and press firmly to flex your chest muscles. Left and right breasts will not exactly match—few women’s breasts do.

Step 3
Lying Down

Place a pillow under your right shoulder and put your right arm behind your head. With the fingers of your left hand flat, press your right breast gently in small circular motions, moving vertically or in a circular pattern covering the entire breast.

Use light, medium, and firm pressure. Squeeze the nipple; check for discharge and lumps. Repeat these steps for your left breast.

Need a little more help?? No worries, check out this vid!