Her Opinion!

Ok, so my friend and I were really close. We hung out all the time and never got sick of each other. Then about 3 or 4 weeks she met this guys. I was fine with this because we all hung out together and he wasn’t always around. Well, now about 2 weeks ago, the two of them started claiming they are an official couple. Since they’ve been going out I’m losing my mind it’s like all she talks about is her boyfriend and I barely get to hang with her anymore.
I am already sick of them together. It’s like she has no life outside of him. And he never leavers her side..Argh! When I told her about how I felt she said had the nerve to say I was jealous???! No I don’t have a boyfriend but that does not mean I’m jealous. I just wanted my friend back.

How do I get my friend back without seeming jealous?? Should I say anything anymore?? What should I do?

-Lex, 16

Hey Lex,

Girlfriend & Boyfriend relationships are always a fragile subject. You have to be careful when sharing your thoughts with your friend regarding her relationship. Remember, its not what you say but how you say it. You have learned a very important lesson at a very young age. What Lesson is that? Only give advice when it is solicted. No one likes when people give their opinions on their life and or relationships. Should this discourage you from talking with you friends? NO. In any relationship communication is Key, its just all in how you communicate. You should never leave anything unsaid in a relationship, it will eat at you in the inside.

I suggest you sit down and talk to her about how you are feeling and how it is affecting you, and share with her how much your friendship means to you, and how much you value it. Maybe you are a little jealous, but that is normal. Its usually just the 2 of you and now you have to share. Just be the bigger the person, and seek to develop a relationship with him as well, in a strange way it may even bring you and your bestfriend closer, she will feel like you support her totally and that you are happy for her.

Also, let me let you in on a little secret. At your age, nothing is permanent. Who knows how long he will be around. But you want to make sure that you are the one who stays around. I cant even tell you who my boyfriend was at 16. As you get older things change and so do people. I want you to always value yourself and know your worth.

-Nikia Pope